Q: How much energy have you spent making decisions over the last month?

 

I don’t spend very much energy on decisions.

 

My decisions are aligned.

I rarely look back and think I should have made a different decision.

I usually don’t second-guess or regret the decisions I make.

I make my decisions with complete confidence.

 

Why?

 

Because I’ve done the work.

I know what I want to have happen and make decisions that support that.

 

Here are some of the aligned decisions I’ve made over the last month:

• take Barre3 classes online to supplement my workouts

• show up to new walking group in my neighborhood

• weekly round of golf with my sister-in-laws

• answer questions for anyone exploring a coaching career

• weekly zoom call with friend

• attend Friday night High School football games

• attend church every Sunday

• move each day

• order weekly FedUp prepped meals

• schedule and show up for weekly 1:1 mindset coaching sessions

• help Coleman participate in a musical this year - commit to get him to rehearsals

• spend consistent time with my sister who moved back nearby

• record my mom sharing stories of her life history on zoom

• be available to drive Coleman to his job

• fly First Class as often as possible

• tip generously

• say “Yes” to Coleman as often as possible

 

We make decisions every day.

All day.

 

Decisions are easy for me.

Because I have spent time identifying what I VALUE.

What is important to me.

 

And I check every decision against what I want to have happen.

What outcome am I trying to create?

Am I creating that outcome?

 

I’ve done the work to clearly identify what is important to me so that when I am facing any decision, big or small, I focus on the purpose and make a confident decision from that.

 

Decisions don’t require a lot of energy from me.

Because I’ve done the work to set myself up to make aligned decisions.

I trust myself to make the best decision I can from the information I have at that time.

 

My decisions are aligned with what is important to me.

I can quickly check my action against what I want to have happen.

 

Do they align?

If they don’t, how can I course-correct?

 

This process happens quickly but intentionally.

 

You will find me constantly asking myself or anyone else involved in the decision, “Ok wait. What do I/we actually want to have happen here?”

What is the purpose?

What am I trying to create?

Who am I wanting to be?

 

Then I make an aligned decision that supports the outcome I want.

 

Let’s look at one of my decisions up close:

Commit to 10-hour BYU football home game day experience

 

Here’s how I got to that decision:

 

Decision Formula

#1 What do I value?

What is important to me regarding BYU football home games?

• spending time with Coleman doing something we both love

• savoring the time we have together before he leaves home

 

#2 What do I want to have happen? (outcome)

What do I want us to think, feel, do/learn, and become?

• be 100% present in the experience, including when in traffic

• feel calm and connected to Coleman before, during and after the game

• enjoy what Coleman wants to do

 

#3 What is the best way to make this happen? (plans and implementation)

• say, “Yes” when Coleman wants to go to the Cougar Walk two hours before kickoff

• say, “Yes” when Coleman wants to stay till the clock is at 0:00

• decide in advance to not worry about rushing out early to beat traffic

• cheer and believe in our team all the way through

• be positive if the weather is hot or cold or uncomfortable

• be kind to those around us

• block all thoughts of it being a long day

• invite a friend for Coleman

• freely hand over credit card for food and treats

 

#4 Evaluate - Are we making it happen?

• So far…yep. I am calm and having fun and present in the entire experience.

• We enjoy watching away games on tv and bring the same energy to that - this is a surprise result.

• I recognize that it’s only 6 games in person and it’s worth it to love every one of them.

 

This is a different way than I have approached games or events in the past.

I used to want to rush out early to maximize beating the traffic.

I used to grumble and resist going to the pre-game stuff because it meant a long day.

I used to warn Coleman that we would be heading out at the 5-minute mark in the 4th quarter.

He used to beg to stay till the end, no matter what the score was.

 

I don’t do that anymore.

He doesn’t need to do that anymore, either.

 

This decision is what it looks like to create balance in my life.

This is being confident in my decisions with zero regrets.

This is the inner work of managing my thoughts and my feelings about how I’m spending my time.

This is on purpose.

 

You do not have to be at the mercy of your thoughts.

You do not have to be at the mercy of outside experiences.

You do not have to feel annoyed or stressed about anything.

You can learn to manage every thought and feeling to create exactly what you want to have happen.

 

Learning how to confidently make aligned decisions is simpler than you might think.

It happens from the first session that we work together.

And the lifetime ROI that you gain by learning how to feel connected and present in your life and your work is incalculable.

 

What does this stir in you?

Do you long for more balance and connection to the things that matter most to you?

 

The next step is to just send me a message or respond to this email.

You can simply say, “How do I do this?”

We’ll start a conversation.

We’ll see what you are wanting and I’ll help you navigate what it looks like to create that.

 

I invite you to forward this on to someone who wants to create more balance in their life.

Someone who is wildly successful in their business but is drowning from being over-committed.

 

Q: How much energy have you spent making decisions over the last month?

 

I don’t spend that much energy making completely aligned decisions.

Because I’ve done the work.

You can, too.

 

This is how you create more time.

 

Sending love,

K