Q: What are you working on believing?

 

My client is working on believing something new.

 

It’s who she is wanting to be in the future - but she’s creating it now by believing it now.

That’s how we collapse time.

We bring the future into the now through our belief.

 

She wasn’t sure about this at first.

She wants to be supportive of others without judgment.

She wants to believe that she doesn’t have to fix them or offer solutions to their problems.

She wants to listen without having her own agenda.

 

All of this is wrapped up in one belief for her - that she is supportive without judgment.

 

When she talked about this desire (only a couple of months ago), it was always in the future.

“I’m trying to be supportive without judgment.”

“I didn’t get it right yesterday. I want to be more supportive without judgment.”

“I’m working on it.”

 

I invited her to consider believing that she is a person who supports without judgment - NOW.

She is that person.

And she’s not perfect, but what happens in her body when she thinks, “I am the person who supports without judgment.”

 

She could tell a difference within her body.

Instead of the struggle of falling short of something that she is striving for, she felt strengthened.

She felt calm.

She felt empowered.

 

We talked about my process to Believe Something New.

It basically has two steps.

 

1. Recognize what you want to believe.

 

For my client, she recognized that she wants to believe she is supportive without judgment now. Not at some future time.

 

2. Give yourself a million chances to believe the new thing.

 

This looks different for everyone because it’s what YOU resonate with.

Think of this…you’re going to SPEAK it, HEAR it, SEE it, THINK it.

In as many ways as you can, as often as you can.

 

It could be through journaling your thoughts about the new belief.

 

It could be writing it on post-it notes that you place on your mirror, your computer, your door to go out of the house. You put the new belief in your line of vision. You look at it. You think about it.

 

It could be through conversation. You tell people about your new belief. You form it in your mind by speaking it with your words.

 

It could be through listening. You keep the new belief top of mind as you listen to your favorite podcast on your way to work. Even if the new belief doesn’t seem to relate specifically to that podcast, because you are looking for ways to support your new belief, you WILL see connections in places you never expected.

 

This is true for anything you are experiencing.

When you look for evidence that the new belief could be true - you see evidence everywhere.

 

Give yourself a million chances to believe the new thing.

Whatever that looks like for you.

 

My client did this.

Believing that she is the person who supports without judgment NOW became the thing she thought about.

As her coach, I see her as that person already.

I spoke to her that way.

I reminded her that it is who she already is.

 

We gave her a million chances to believe the new thing now.

 

In a recent coaching session she started to describe her growth in believing that she is supportive without judgment now.

 

She said,

I used to think that I might feel that about myself.

Then I thought, I believe it sometimes.

Then, I think it often.

Now I know that I AM.

 

As she moved through evaluating the shift in her belief, she wasn’t exactly expecting to say that last thing.

 

I AM.

 

I could visibly see her body language change.

She looked lighter. Her shoulders went back a little bit.

She sat up a little taller through the zoom screen.

Her eyes opened more.

She kind of surprised herself with that realization!

 

She had gone from believing that being a supportive person without judgment was somewhere in her future, to believing it now.

 

She became that person through her belief.

 

I AM.

 

When we choose to believe empowering things about our future now, we act from that belief.

Our decisions are more intentional.

Our emotions are more calm and confident.

We are grounded. Sure.

And we demonstrate how we are that person with the action we take.

 

Getting to the “I AM” is closer than you think.

She always was the person who supports without judgment, but now she believes it.

 

It only took my client about five weeks to shift her belief.

Now she gets to build on that new belief. Strengthen it. Let it seep into every part of her existence.

 

And my question to her now is, “What will you believe next?”

This is fun.

Sending love,

K