Kolette Hall

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Mom-Guilt Not Required

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I was in three different situations last week where I heard a woman use the phrase, “Well, you know…mom-guilt.”

💚 One was a mom of a toddler, going back to work at a new job she is excited for.
💚 One was a mom of five kids who knows she makes a difference in her family-owned business and wants to go crush it at the office. But that means hiring help at home.
💚 One was a young retired grandma who wants to write a book or create a podcast but her grown-up daughter asks her to watch the kids….again.

Each woman brought along mom-guilt to their experience of deciding how they would pursue their passion. 
Like feeling guilty for wanting to create something they care about AND be a mom must go hand-in-hand.
Like mom-guilt must come along with them.
A necessary pre-requisite to working at a job they love or hiring a nanny or saying no to babysitting grand babies.

Mom-guilt, my friend, is not a requirement.
It’s a feeling.
Created when we think thoughts like,
“I love my kids. I shouldn’t want to work.”
or
“I want to build my biz but I should be with my kid all the time.”
or
“I should want to babysit the grandkids, but I want to have time to go for my dreams.”

🤔 Should they, though? 
I’m questioning that.
What if we drop the thought that it has to be one or the other?

Try this:
I love my child AND I want to work, too.
I can build my biz AND be present when I’m with my kids.
I can babysit the grandkids WHEN it works for me and my dreams.

Both.
You are a great mom. And you’re pursing your own great thing.
You can do both.
And mom-guilt doesn’t have to be buckled in next to you for the ride.💙💪🏻