Q: Would you like to feel more connected to and present with your family?

 

Please answer the following questions:

 

Are you a Swiftie?

Do you follow the NFL?

 

My answer is “yes” to both of these questions.

So I’m liking this Taylor Swift/Travis Kelce content all over the internet.

 

I like how a group of people are learning about something that they weren’t interested in before.

That’s personal growth.

If it comes in the form of Swifties learning what a first down or two-point conversion is in football, I’m here for it.

It’s fun.

 

Here’s something I learned about Travis Kelce recently.

When he was asked if it was distracting to have all of the attention around him and Taylor Swift during the NFL season, he said that he’s good at being “locked in.”

 

Then he described what it means to “lock in” during the football season.

It looks like showing up, being focused, checking his ego at the door, having a clear mind.

He blocks out the potential distractions and focuses on the job he has to do.

 

This is “locking in.”

 

What he didn’t specifically mention is what it looks like to have the “clear mind” that is required for him to lock in.

That’s what I want to ask him.

 

“Hey Travis, what mind management is going on for you to be so locked in during football?”

 

I guarantee that he has a thought-management strategy that creates that clear mind and allows him to be “locked in.”

He creates it on purpose.

 

“Locking in” is the same thing as being present.

It’s focusing on what is most important at that time and creating a barrier from the distractions.

 

“Locking in” happens in our minds.

Being present happens in our minds.

 

You can be physically located anywhere and still create the feeling of being present.

Being present is a state of being that we create with thoughts we think.

 

Like Travis Kelce, you might be really good at “locking in” at work.

But you want to be more present when you’re at home or with your family.

You know that you will feel closer in your relationships if you weren’t distracted by work or not having enough time or thinking you need to be doing something else.

 

Being present is a mind management decision.

Being present requires us to know how to recognize what thoughts we are thinking and what emotion we are feeling.

 

I call this Active Awareness and it’s the first thing my clients learn how to do when we work together. In fact, they learn it on their consult call.

That’s how valuable I think this tool is.

 

When you learn to recognize that what you are thinking creates what you are feeling, you empower yourself to feel present in any moment.

 

“Locked in” is an emotion created by what Travis Kelce is thinking.

Feeling present is an emotion created by what we are thinking.

 

I invite you to tap into your Football Era and borrow a page from Travis Kelce’s playbook.

Learn how to lock in to the important moments of your life.

Lock in to your relationships to create more closeness and connection.

Lock in to what you are putting on your schedule so that you run your calendar instead of it running you.

 

Q: Would you like to feel more connected to and present with your family?

 

Feeling present in any area of your life is available to you.

It just takes learning how.

 

Sending love,

K